Thursday, February 16, 2012

Finding the Excellent

Robert has been really happy lately.  I mean super happy.  He isn’t one to express a great deal of emotion (probably a side effect of his medication or seizures) so his response to everything is usually “that’s nice.”

He’s been a bit more animated the past month or so and describes everything as “excellent” which is then followed by a giggle.

It makes me wonder what he’s up to.

What is making Robert so darn happy?  (Yes, I over-analyze everything and so am on a mission to figure out the source of this extreme happiness making everything “excellent”).

There are several possibilities:

1.     He's been staying at our house each weekend since Thanksgiving (and every other weekend for months before that).  We have dogs he pets and coos at; he is able to watch marathons of Jeopardy or Wheel of Fortune or Murder, She Wrote; he gets his favorite foods (any kind of meat and Rocky Road ice cream).  What’s not to love? (well, maybe the crappy mattress on the sofa sleeper, but other than that . . .)

2.     Robert has settled into a routine.  I stopped visiting him at New Home through the week so he is able to go about his usual routine without me interrupting his shower or dinner or bedtime ritual.  There’s a lot to be said for routine (speaking of which, my dogs are letting me know it’s almost treat time!).

3.     He absolutely LOVES his Day Program.  Robert has made many friends, eats lunch with his buddies, watches movies and goes on field trips. Plus they have a party every other week for something or other (always with cookies or other delicious goodies).  Sounds like a day full of excellent!

4.     He finally has cable at New Home.  This may seem inconsequential to anyone else but to Robert, it’s huge (actually, I’d miss my cable too).  Having the ability to watch his favorite shows in the evening while snuggled in bed is part of Robert’s routine.  When New Home disconnected the cable, he was lost. I raised a ruckus and, after taking way too long for them to get the necessary approvals for it, his cable is back.  Do not underestimate the power of Jeopardy to tip the scales to “excellent!”

5.     Rocky Road Ice Cream and lots of it!  Seriously.  Isn’t everything excellent with chocolate or ice cream (or, better yet, a combination of the two?).

6.     He physically feels good.  He hasn’t been in the hospital for several months (knock on wood), he hasn’t had the flu (again, please knock on that wood!) and he hasn’t had back pain in quite a while (which is a miracle considering that sofa sleeper mattress is only 3” thick).  It’s pretty amazing how the world seems a bit brighter and more excellent when you physically feel well.

There could be many other reasons Robert's life is excellent because Robert has turned out to be a pretty positive and happy guy.  Whatever the reason for his giggles and the “excellent” review of everything, I’m just happy he’s happy. 

And, that’s pretty excellent.

What makes you have an excellent day?  Better yet, what makes you giggle?


Kathy Lowrey said...

I love Excellent and why wouldn't it be.
We all see the Excellent care Robert gets from his Excellent sister.
Keep Spreading the Joy Robert!!!

Heidi Alberti & Atticus Uncensored said...

Excellent! Robert is a wonderful example for everyone --- we should all take such great pleasure from the seemingly little things in life. But actually his joys are so little...
A family who cares about him, friends, health (at this time),ice cream, dogs, and cable television -- that's a good list! I hope you are feeling that everything is Excellent too, Trish!
Hope to see your smiling face (and hear your charming snort) soon :)

Atticus & Heidi
"commentary to give you paws..."

Trish Hughes Kreis said...

Heidi, Robert sure has his priorities straight, doesn't he? I'm looking forward to his visit this weekend and am sure he'll inspire me even more!

Trish Hughes Kreis said...

Kathy, Robert does spread joy (and without even realizing it). I am very grateful he's happy. Of course, ice cream makes me happy too. :-)

Jane said...


I am so happy that Robert's health is well and that he is happy. He is such an inspiration to me to be happier even when things seem bad.

Jane~mom to Nicole, 17 yo, VSD, PAH, Eisenmengers (dx 1/22/10)
BHJS (dx 2/4/11)
"You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think."

Judy Stone-Goldman said...

This really does sound excellent! I truly understand the joys of a life with routine and personal pleasures (whether Rocky Road or television or having fun with friends). A good steady life with the things that make us smile--definitely excellent!

Judy Stone-Goldman
The Reflective Writer
Personal-Professional Balance Through Writing

Trish Hughes Kreis said...

Judy, Some people never can figure out how to get their priorities straight. It comes naturally to Robert! :-)

Trish Hughes Kreis said...

Jane, You and Nicole are inspirations to me, too! There are a lot of similarities between when Robert was young and Nicole (both were/are "judged" because of their illness). I hope we continue to learn from each other and that Robert can, in some small way, help Nicole through her illness.

Imogen Ragone said...

So great that Robert is doing so well right now. I think for most people, a regular routine is an important part of being content. And I can understand why Rocky Road Ice Cream might be important!! Very pleased for you and Robert - excellent!

Trish Hughes Kreis said...

Imogen, Thanks for visiting! Can't go wrong with Rocky Road Ice Cream. :-)