tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3821611713908924761.post6629653176807038414..comments2024-03-12T02:16:30.251-07:00Comments on Robert's Sister: GoldilocksTrish Hughes Kreishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04995070221130924508noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3821611713908924761.post-57472903877558636722011-06-16T06:00:52.270-07:002011-06-16T06:00:52.270-07:00Tahnks, Joan. That is exactly what I'm looking...Tahnks, Joan. That is exactly what I'm looking for. Lingering questions about his care after I leave his current home drive me crazy. I know he has the basics but I want him to be at a home and not warehoused. We'll get there!Trish Hughes Kreishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04995070221130924508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3821611713908924761.post-90645106257263887212011-06-16T04:18:46.164-07:002011-06-16T04:18:46.164-07:00Eventually, you will find a place that feels "...Eventually, you will find a place that feels "just right." And you will know it because you will feel at peace when you go home from visiting him at night, and when, during the day, your thoughts drift to him, you will picture him happy and well cared for.Joan Oliver Emmerhttp://www.joanoliveremmer.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3821611713908924761.post-29301209020739319582011-06-13T18:37:05.439-07:002011-06-13T18:37:05.439-07:00Me too! :D but with righteous indignation.
Laine...Me too! :D but with righteous indignation.<br /><br />Laine<br />"Aspire to Inspire"<br />http://www.ThoughtsfromABroad.netLaine Dhttp://www.ThoughtsfromABroad.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3821611713908924761.post-12189522545535257212011-06-13T18:33:52.360-07:002011-06-13T18:33:52.360-07:00Oh my gosh, Laine, you're making me cry here. ...Oh my gosh, Laine, you're making me cry here. I really appreciate the support and definitely want to help Robert and others in a similar situation. These facilities do need to be held accountable and I'm finding they are not yet used to that and, in fact, count on people not knowing their rights (or counting on no family involvement). Thank you so much for your support here and on the Circulation Desk (love that group!).Trish Hughes Kreishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04995070221130924508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3821611713908924761.post-32801304257659832342011-06-13T18:19:35.546-07:002011-06-13T18:19:35.546-07:00What an amazing advocate you have become for your ...What an amazing advocate you have become for your brother! You're not being picky and although I love the Goldilocks sobriquet I don't think its the case.<br /><br />If you were buying a car you would weigh the pros and cons of each make and model - if you had a good car but the service was terrible next time you would look for a different option, and that's just a piece of equipment! <br /><br />Everyone, no matter their challenges deserves to be in an environment where they receive love, appreciation, support, kindness and encouragement to grow (that's why I love the Circulation Desk! each member challenges me to grow with their point of view and support). <br /><br />Robert deserves a place where he can enjoy interaction and feel safe and appreciated and you deserve him to be in a place that loves and cares for him just as you obviously do!<br /><br />Thank you for fighting for Robert ~ what you are doing is not only making the world better for your brother but for every other person in a similar situation ~ You are making the so called "Care" facilities accountable!<br /><br /><b><i>True inspiration!</i><br /><br />Laine D.<br />http://www.ThoughtsfromABroad.net </b>Laine Dhttp://www.ThoughtsfromABroad.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3821611713908924761.post-46457388066229304712011-06-13T17:58:41.887-07:002011-06-13T17:58:41.887-07:00Thank you, June. You would think it would be easy ...Thank you, June. You would think it would be easy to find a home that is well run and encourages family involvement. I'll keep you posted on the search!Trish Hughes Kreishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04995070221130924508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3821611713908924761.post-41710638764018569602011-06-13T17:28:03.200-07:002011-06-13T17:28:03.200-07:00As the mother of an autistic child, I can totally ...As the mother of an autistic child, I can totally understand wanting your brother to have the best. He should be happy in his home as well as being taken care of.<br /><br />I hope you find a home that will provide the care your brother deserves. You're a wonderful sister to be looking out Robert the way you do.June Sockolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06227772055403044113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3821611713908924761.post-79795301556907601802011-06-13T17:27:32.913-07:002011-06-13T17:27:32.913-07:00Heidi, You are so right that it is stressful. (I t...Heidi, You are so right that it is stressful. (I think that's why I "go dark" sometimes and just need to let things simmer). It's very aggravating when it's clear with these homes that it's all about the profits instead of the people. The hands on workers are (usually) great -- the management not so much. And that's coming from me who is a manager and knows the business perspective! I get it but you can't put profits before people. Not okay. Thanks for commenting!Trish Hughes Kreishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04995070221130924508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3821611713908924761.post-70105563089580524982011-06-13T17:23:14.630-07:002011-06-13T17:23:14.630-07:00Fiona, I love your comment that "compromises ...Fiona, I love your comment that "compromises just don't feel right." I have never put it that way but it is such an apt description (at least in situations such as these)! I always appreciate your insight. Thank you.Trish Hughes Kreishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04995070221130924508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3821611713908924761.post-19995321073022406432011-06-13T17:21:24.007-07:002011-06-13T17:21:24.007-07:00Thank you, Louise. I can't imagine not being a...Thank you, Louise. I can't imagine not being a strong advocate for Robert and often worry about the countless people who do not have an advocate (either because they aren't around or are afraid to do so). My goal is to help others, too, so they know they don't have to settle (or take for granted that these places will do what they are supposed to do).Trish Hughes Kreishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04995070221130924508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3821611713908924761.post-4211175209047643202011-06-13T16:31:16.826-07:002011-06-13T16:31:16.826-07:00I can't imagine the stress and toll this make ...I can't imagine the stress and toll this make take on you... but you are absolutely right Not to comprise on Robert's care! <br /><br />It's a very sad state of affairs that these homes are more concerned about being sued than the actual well-being of residents.. but certainly doesn't surprise me. Sadly, profits before people seems to be the trend...<br /><br />I wish you luck finding Robert a new home where he can thrive (and where the admins can communicate properly with you!)<br /><br />Heidi & Atticus<br />http://www.atticusuncensored.com<br />"commentary to give you paws..."Heidi Alberti & Atticus Uncensoredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05235433621038051444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3821611713908924761.post-3043098889475871172011-06-13T16:06:28.944-07:002011-06-13T16:06:28.944-07:00I really love your commitment and love for your br...I really love your commitment and love for your brother. And I so agree that it has to be just right. Compromises just don't feel right. I would hold out until you find what you are looking for.<br /><br />Fiona StolzeFiona Stolzehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00343231825594699539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3821611713908924761.post-77463228796637666332011-06-13T12:09:19.661-07:002011-06-13T12:09:19.661-07:00I am full of admiration for you being such a consi...I am full of admiration for you being such a consistent and powerful advocate for your brother. I do hope you find him the right place soon.<br />Louise EdingtonLouise Edingtonhttp://http;//louiseedington.comnoreply@blogger.com